A Reindeer For Halloween? Yes!

October 31, 2019

   Halloween felt like another typical day. That is how I was treating it. I didn't prepare to have my mindset in the right place for Halloween. I thought having my mom dress up in something for Halloween would be fun, but I didn't make it to the store or purchase anything online. I thought even if it was just a Halloween shirt it would be fun. I even thought that my mom would think it was silly and not really care, so I figured, it was ok that I wasn't able to do anything.

  There was a knock on the door. It was something that I was least expecting. . .
HALLOWEEN CHEER was brought to us at our front door. A surprise. 

   A smile was automatically brought to my face and this cheer changed my Halloween with a smile and excitement. 

   Cindy's CNA, Ashley, brought her a costume, glowstick bracelets, and suckers. She gave the option to my mom of what costume to choose. Cindy didn't know what to choose, so Ashley chose for her.

    Ashley showered my mom and then got her dressed up as a deer with an antler head band and cute tail. Cindy smiled and seemed happy about the way she looked.
    I didn't know how long Cindy would leave her costume on, but to my surprise it was all day, even up to just right before she went to sleep. I had to remove the headband and tail for her.

    Cindy spent the day dressed as a deer watching Hocus Pocus on repeat. She had some of her grandkids visit her and the fun part was Cindy got to surprise them with her deer look.

    I was reminded again that someone who doesn't know it's Halloween or what Halloween is, can still dress up, and their day can be changed with excitement & happiness.

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We hope you all had a fun filled last day of October!


Just Be

October 01, 2019

37 years ago this week, my mom gave birth to me. For that, I am forever grateful to her & all she endured to help give me life.

I have learned with Dementia to . . .

NOT set high expectations, for it will only lead to disappointment or sadness.

Instead, I have learned to JUST BE. Just be present. Just be in the moment. Just be happy. Just be thankful.

Just be ……. (you fill in the blank)

There are so many things that you can JUST BE.

For those wondering. . .

my mom doesn't know the time, day, week, month, year, birthdays, or holidays.

For my birthday this year, I learned to JUST BE with my mom. I was just happy to be with my mom. That was enough for me. It was another typical day with her. I learned to not set high expectations and because of this it was such a happy birthday for me.


I decided to kiss my mom on the cheek. She looked at me afterwards and laughed. She gave me a look as if she thought I was a little crazy for doing that. I just laugh and smile at these moments.

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