Dementia robbed my mom of being the grandma that she wanted to be. Dementia did not allow my mom to be the grandma that she looked forward to becoming. My mom was in her prime time of being a grandma when she got robbed by Dementia.
I'm sure that any grandma looks forward to this time in their life. It's the time where they can spoil their grandkids, play with them, and then send their grandchildren home with their parents. I've heard on many occasions how being a grandparent is so fun. I feel sad that my mom never got to experience the true experience of being a grandparent in full capacity.
I feel even sadder that my mom's grandchildren never got to experience the true grandma that my mom wanted to be.
My mom tried with all her might, to be a great grandma, to her grand children. She was more with it, and was able to do a little more for her first and second grandchildren. As the years went on, the real grandma in her, slowly drifted away, day by day, year by year.
I remember my mom feeling guilty all the time because she couldn't be the grandma she wanted to be. She vented to me many times about her guilt and frustration that something was holding her back. I had no idea at this time why my mom couldn't be the grandma that she wanted to be. To be honest, we didn't understand her or understand why she couldn't do more.
Anyone experiencing this same thing or anything similar in life, please remember:
Do Your Best, That's All That Matters!
Doing Your Best is Enough!
You Are Enough!
If I could go back in time, I would tell those exact words to my mom and hug her tight.
This has been a lesson to me and my brothers, that Dementia gives many LIMITATIONS in life. Being a grandparent is one of those limitations, unfortunately.
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