Our Busy Fun & Not So Fun Weekend with Cindy

July 30, 2018

We were able to spend the weekend with Cindy. 

We did a lot of fun things and some not so fun things.

We started off the weekend, on Friday, with pampering Cindy with a shower, manicure, and pedicure! ;)  This picture below is a reminder to me that. . . . . 

A caregiver, in all honestly, needs as much help as they can get. 

Thank you for your help this day, Paul.

The next activity up was dinner time! Cindy was all smiles. We were the only ones inside eating, and we felt like we reserved the place to ourselves. It was perfect!

It was car wash time, after dinner. We could barely see out our windows, so we took Cindy to a car wash we had never been to. It's a car wash place right next to where she lives called, Waterworks Express Car Wash. We were impressed. This was the only photo that I managed to get of our car wash activity. We were cleaning out the car & vacuuming, while Cindy was listening to her Bruno Mars music, and waiting patiently.

We went to visit Cindy on Saturday, and ended up going to a Taylorsville Emergency medical place. I'm glad we went there because it was not busy and the service was very fast, considering we were dealing with someone who has Dementia.

I felt like I was running up and down, around and around, getting a workout to help the nurse & doctor with my mom. I had to help my mom do everything and at times she seemed confused at what they were asking her to do. She continuously was trying to pull out the needles and she kept unhooking the monitoring equipment. I'm not sure the exact names of these items in the rooms.

My mom hated when the blood pressure cuff would tighten up on her arm. She looked like it hurt her when it did that. She hated getting her blood drawn and wanted to pull her arm away when the needle was inserted. She especially hated getting a catheter in her, and it took an Ativan to get her to cooperate. I think we can all agree and understand where Cindy was coming from with the catheter. Those are never fun to have to be inserted and to not know why, can only be frustrating. She kept wanting to pull her catheter out and take off the tape that attached the tube to her thigh.

We spent a hour there, and I felt mentally exhausted after leaving. Cindy was diagnosed with a urinary tract infection (the first, that we know of, since she's had Dementia) and she has a bed/pressure sore on her bottom. She is now on an antibiotic for a week, and we hope she'll be back to herself soon. 

Her symptoms had been extra confusion, agitation, pacing around, more incontinence than usual, & darker urine.

She was a trooper. I felt bad watching all she had to go through, and her not understanding why she was having everything done to her.

We ended the night shoe shopping . . . .  in Cindy's closet. My mom has been super repetitive at certain things since she has had dementia. She has always wanted to wear her same shoes. We finally were able to take her old shoes away, that were getting holes and wearing out. We found her slippers in her closet that she has not worn since they were given to her. She received them this last Christmas. She is loving wearing them around where she lives.

Shopping therapy is just what we needed to end the night. ;)

All will be well! We have been saved again by our laughing and smiling!

Change that frown to a smile!

Life is too short to wear too many frowns!


Tips For Someone with Dementia To Enjoy A Family Reunion or Larger Crowds - Our Family Reunion Time with Cindy

July 17, 2018

My mom was able to go to her Family Reunion last month. Her sister, Linda, was so kind & put the family reunion together.

I was a little hesitant to myself, and wondered how my mom would do around a lot of people. I think my mom surprised us all and did so well. She lasted for at least 6 hours in the evening and past her bedtime.

 Cindy was super excited to go see her son & sister, and, of course, to hang out with me (Natalie).

Here are a few tips & tricks for someone with Dementia to enjoy a family reunion and/or larger crowds  . . . . . 

(These ideas worked for us and might not work for everyone)

1. Be careful to not overload your loved one, all at once. We would sit my mom away from the crowd, and people would come talk to her for a minute, and then let her be. This seemed like it worked really well.

2. Play music on a phone with ear phones. I would play music for my mom to entertain her. She loves music so much. My mom would just listen to music on Pandora. She sang and danced a few times, too.

3. Wheelchair ride. My mom couldn't walk to where we were going to, so luckily there was a wheelchair available for her to use. We included her in the activities, and she got to go for a ride out in the nature. She was able to look at the beauty surrounding her.

4. Movie time. We have Vudu on our phones. We put on "The Greatest Showman" for my mom to watch, and so she could be entertained some more. She loved watching the movie and hearing the music.

5. Dinner time. We had my mom sit away from the crowd, so she could eat her dinner. There were 3 of us that ate dinner with her. I believe the less overloaded she gets, the better my mom does.

6. Bathroom Breaks. Staying near a bathroom is always such a good thing for us. It makes it easier to access & is just so much easier in general.

7. Visits. One on one interactions are easier for my mom to follow. She would have one on one visits here, and there with different people. This seems easier for my mom because she has a hard time listening & communicating. She isn't able to conversate much, but she can sure smile.

8. Pack Snacks. My mom becomes quieter when she is hungry. A good idea is to pack some snacks in your purse to give your loved one, in case, it takes a little longer for the main food to be prepared.


ALL in ALL, the FAMILY REUNION, was a hit and went so well for my mom! She had a WONDERFUL TIME! My mom was able to get out, dance, laugh, sing, visit with loved ones, go for a wheelchair ride, and see people she hadn't seen for a long time.

The main goal is to make your loved one feel comfortable, loved, and happy! 

These tips do just that for Cindy!

Cindy couldn't fully enter our family reunion world. We helped her so she could stay in her own Dementia world, which made it easier, and more enjoyable for her.

Thank you, Linda, for the awesome family reunion!


You WILL Get Through This! - Falling Apart & Getting Back Up -

July 09, 2018

My family and closest friends have seen me at my lowest points. They've seen me cry more times than I'd like to admit. I like to show a strong face, but the truth is behind the internet, I do cry, more than I'd like to.

I'm taking this story back into time. Back into the year 2014. This was during the weeks we were taking my mom to the neurologist, to figure out what had been going on with my mom, to see why she was acting so strange, & also learning the sad news.


I was at work leaning over with my head down on top of my arms on the desk. I had tears streaming down my arms onto the desk below. Unfortunately, a few people at work got to see my tears. The tears seemed like they were because my heart felt broken into a million pieces. I was losing my mom and I really just could not comprehend it all. I never imagined that I would hear the words, "Your mom has Frontotemporal Dementia. There is no cure and it is eventually fatal."

You see, I am my mom's only daughter, so our bond was super close.

On this occasion at work, there was a friend that happened to see me at my worst. I was super sad at the news. He gave me one of the greatest speeches that has stuck with me. This is just the short version of our conversation.

He said. . ."Think back to ALL of your trials throughout your life". 

"You made it through them, right?"

Me . . .Thinking for a bit. 

"Yes, I did."

He said . . .

"I know it's super hard right now, but you will get through this. Just like you have gotten through all your other trials."


I'm here to say, that at the time during this conversation, I couldn't really picture myself getting through this trial. I was devastated. 

I'm here to say it has been 4 years since this moment in my life.

It has gotten easier for me to cope with, 4 years later. It has been hard, but I have gotten through this.

My friend was right. . . . 

You WILL Get Through This!

Looking back, I'm so grateful for this conversation and the time that was put into this conversation.

I hope this message touches someone that needs to hear these words. I felt like I needed to share this story today and I felt compelled to share.


You WILL Get Through This!

Just like after a storm. . . 
and the sun comes out & reappears.


Doing Things For My Mom, That She Once Did For Me

June 25, 2018

I heard the words, "how do I do this", blurted out of my mom's mouth. 

I was busy putting away my mom's shower supplies, after she had showered, when I heard these words. I glanced over at my mom as she was holding up her hair elastic to her head.

I quickly stopped what I was doing, and told her she didn't need to worry about it, because I would help her.

Typically the inside of me would have stopped, felt shocked, & sad at the same time. These kind of questions my mom asks, shows me the progression of the Frontotemporal Dementia, she has. I have become accustomed to hearing stuff like this lately. On this day, it didn't phase me. Maybe, because I have been helping my mom with her hair for years, and I already know she needs help to put her hair up how she likes it.

Instead, I told my mom something similar to this.

I started combing my mom's hair and told my mom that she use to do my hair, like I was doing hers. She replied with a question "I did?". 

I told my mom that, " I am now doing your hair, like you once did for me."

I always try to reassure her, that I will always be there to help her, so she feels comforted.

I have learned with Dementia, that I am blessed to be able to do the things for my mom, that she once did for me. I am now returning the favor.

This just shows that something, as easy as putting hair up in a ponytail, is HARD and IMPOSSIBLE for someone in the later stages of Dementia.

Later Stages

Cindy's June Doctor Update

June 06, 2018

We took Cindy to another doctor's appointment yesterday for a follow up. All went well. These appointments seem like a breeze these days, compared to when she was first diagnosed. She has no anger anymore and she basically has no idea why she's going to the doctor.

We received a receipt after paying her co-payment. I was holding it in my hand while Cindy asked me what it was. She didn't know what a receipt was. The new phase lately has been Cindy asking us what "basic things are, like a receipt.

Cindy hasn't been sleeping well at night, so her sleep and mood pill has been increased, so hopefully she can get some better sleep. She texted me last night 88 times from 7:30pm to 7am so that shows that she's texting me instead of sleeping. I put my phone on silent and let her text away. I think texting is a calming method for her. 🙃

Here are some examples of Cindy's texts to me lately . . . . I'm the text in yellow and she's the one in gray.

Cindy might have a new ride soon in the form of a wheelchair. The doctor ordered her one because she's had a harder time walking lately. The doctor ordered physical therapy, too. We'll see how that turns out with her Dementia, and if they can get her to do the therapy.

Cindy is still doing well in her own world. It seems like she has entered a newer stage of Dementia that we are still trying to figure out. She's more quiet. She has lost a lot of meaning of words and conversations are hard. We communicate with music, hugs, and our smiles. She loves her music. 


Thank You, Mom!

May 11, 2018

My mom has taught me so many things throughout my lifetime. More than she will ever know.

I feel like she has been teaching me the most meaningful lessons throughout the last few years, while she has had Dementia. For that, I will be forever grateful.

My mom has taught me . . . . . . 

 - Patience. Patience. Patience.

- Live in the present moment.

- How to be unstoppable in caring

- How to give of myself and give to others.

- Have fun.

- Don't be too serious.

- Smile!

- You CAN get through anything that is hard.

- Never give up.

- Love is all you really need.

I am a better person now, than I was before Dementia.

All because of you, Mom!

Thank you, Mom!

I would do this all over to learn these life lessons again. . . . Even though I would never want to go through this again.

I dedicate this beautiful song to my momma and to all the wonderful mommas out there!
You are all AMAZING!

This song reminded me of my mom!

Happy Mother's Day!

Song by

Stan Walker - Thank You.


My Top 10 Stress Relievers For Caregivers

May 01, 2018

Here are some of my top stress relievers that have helped me in stressful times during the last few years.

1. Meditation - YouTube videos

I found out about meditation and YouTube videos just a few months before my mom was diagnosed with FTD. I would say this has been a blessing for me to learn about meditation videos, and to be able to listen to them the last few years. 

I have gotten into a habit where I  listen to meditation videos while I go to sleep or I have a harder time falling asleep. It's such a habit that I have listened to meditation while falling asleep at home, on vacation, or in the hospital. This always helps me out and helps me to fall asleep easier and more peacefully. I love that I can just do this from my phone, and have access to it anywhere I go. This video below, is my current favorite one, and the one that I listen to every night.

2. Walk/Jog/Run/Exercise/Move Around -

I started walking, sometimes 2 times a day, with my dog. This helped me relieve so much stress that I had. Walking and seeing the beauty around me helped me forget about my worries.

I would even, at times, take my mom with me to the park. She'd sit in the car listening to her music with her headphones, while watching me walk around the track. This helped me de-stress. I was able to entertain my mom, while doing something that helped me, too.

My goal lately has been to just move around more than I have been. 

My walk at the park. I had my mom get out of the car to take a picture with me in 2014.

3. Pets -

I have been lucky to be surrounded by pets that always have seemed to know when I needed their love. They have really been therapy for me. Petting an animal can help relieve stress and worries.

4. Journaling / Blogging -

I haven't been that great with journaling for quite some time. I have started to blog and document this FTD journey that we have been on. I feel like opening up and letting it all out has helped me out so much. Letting it out is therapeutic! Let it out!

5. Music -

Music is probably a given stress reliever for everyone. Listening to some upbeat music can always make you feel better. Turn on and turn up the music!

6. Positive Affirmations -

Positive affirmations help to boost me up and to keep me on the right path of thinking. This can really help out if you wake up and do this in the mornings. It's a great way to start your day out. I learned this from Tony Robbins. It doesn't hurt to have a hour of power in the mornings, too. Take time to focus on yourself.

Think to yourself positive affirmations like the ones below. Say positive affirmations inside your head over and over.

I Can Do This
I Am Strong
I Am Brave
I Am A Great Caregiver

7. Search For Support -

I'll admit that I was the one who thought I could do everything by myself. I didn't need anyone or any support. The truth is everyone needs all the support they can get while going through stressful situations! Search for support from family and friends. When you feel like you need extra support reach out to support groups in person or online. It is very therapeutic to speak to others who understand what you are going through. No one should have to go through stressful situations alone!

8. Be Thankful -

Be thankful for the little things. This is what helps me keep going. I search for just even the smallest things that I am thankful for. I always remind myself that things could be so much worse, and then it reminds me to be thankful for my situation. It could always be worse than it is.

9. Friends and Family - 

Having the support of friends and family has been what has got me through my stressful times. Just knowing they were there for me through it all helped me. I didn't need them to help me fix my problems. It just helped to know they were there. It's nice to get a moment to yourself away from it all, and hang out with friends & family, too.

10.  Hot Shower or Bath -

Whenever I feel like I need to unwind and just get away from everything. . . . . I love to get in the shower and just have the warm water run down my body. It helps release tension & sore muscles. I love to do the positive affirmations in the shower, too. That makes this a 2 in 1 stress reliever for me. Make your "shower time" your "me time". Don't think about all of your worries and everything you have on your to do list. Let your shower time be your healing time! Think of positive affirmations, while you are showering. It will do wonders for you.

These are just a few of the ways that I have found to help relieve my stress. What are some stress relievers that help you?

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